Want to be unhappy? Stay angry.

Unhappiness is not only  unpleasant, but it can have a negative impact on our success.  In my last blog, we looked at how a lack of gratitude can create emotional cancer in our lives.  Today, I want to look at the drain of anger on our emotional health.

Anger is one of the most destructive emotions we can let into our heart. It is a reacting emotion that is meant to be experienced short term. In short bursts, it is reasonable.  The trouble comes when we allow it to settle in for a long stay in the hotel of our mind.  Are you booking an emotional vacation when you should be pulling in for a rest stop?

Anger has powerful effects on our bodies.  It activates hormones for fighting that trigger our muscles for battle, but battles are only meant to last a few minutes. If we stay in battle mode long term, those hormones begin to wear down our immune defenses and over stimulate our cardiovascular system.  In short, we get sick.  Have you ever met anyone who was sick with anger?

Anger can become a habit.  Some people make it their default emotional setting.

They have been upset for so long, they have forgotten what peace feels like.  Rage becomes their calling card.

Side effects of an anger life:

  • Loneliness – sensible people will cut you out of their life
  • Career stagnation- businesses cannot afford the messes angry people make
  • Financial stress – it costs money to get out of jail, get divorced, etc.
  • Reputation damage – you will be known as storm waiting to happen

Ditch the destructive emotion of anger:

  • Lower your expectations of others – people are weak, get used to it.
  • Raise what it takes to offend you – don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • Hold tightly to peace – you can choose to keep cool.
  • Release offenses – if someone offends you,  let it go.

“You don’t have to attend every argument to which you’re invited.”  Author Unknown

Life is short and people’s memories are long.  Don’t let the emotional of cancer anger continue to limit your success.

Ancient wisdom from a timeless book says:

“And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.”    Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT

Emotional Cancer

Why am I not happy?


We live in the most prosperous time in human history.  If you are reading this and lucky enough to live in America, you may have become accustomed to a lifestyle that would have boggled the mind of your great grandparents for its ease and comforts.  We live safer, live longer, suffer less disease, eat more meals, live in infinitely more comfortable housing, and drive stylish vehicles of amazing reliability.   We are living in the lap of luxury compared to billions of people around the world.   Yet, many are not happy.

It is a disease of luxury. 

It’s not that we can’t see, but rather that we don’t see.  We have developed a weird tunnel vision that sees only the few things we lack, rather than the abundance of generous things we possess.  We will drive our luxury automobile thru the drive through at Starbucks to purchase a $5 latte after having a full breakfast at home, and instead of feeling blessed, we are annoyed that the wait will be 5 minutes to get through instead of the usual 2 minutes.  Then, we pout because a woman, who walks past our car, is wearing a pair of $400 shoes we can’t afford, conveniently forgetting that the shoes we are wearing are one of dozens of pairs from our closet, which, by the way, is bulging at its seams.

Emotional cancer limits our success.  

Being unhappy is like having a sinus infection. It is not severe enough to cause you to miss work, but you don’t perform at optimum level while there.  Your co-workers notice you withdrawing. You don’t engage in discussions that could produce new growth because you feel off your game. You will skip meetings, because you feel blue. Bottom line… you perform at a subpar level. If you keep these behaviors up for very long, you will be passed over for promotions and probably find yourself on your boss’s blacklist.  Being unhappy for long periods of time will definitely cost your pocketbook.

It is a disease that disables.

In the next few blogs, we’ll look at how to survive emotional cancer.  For now, just diagnosis yourself.   Get honest about your habitual thoughts and start looking for a cure.  

The Master said, “I have come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly,” You were not meant to waste away in emotional distress.  The answers are on the way.  Freedom is coming.