Is Your Faith In Yourself Greater Than Your Fear of the Future?

 

“Kim Beckham’s message at the East Texas Leadership Summit 2018 provided a blueprint for me to take action in an area of my life.”

This was a quote sent to me by a young lady, who heard me speak at a local leadership event. I shared in the speech some key truths from my soon to be published book,“Game Changers, The People, Places and Ideas That Change Your Life.”  She wrote down five of them and put them to work. Just like I do when I coach people, I encouraged the participants in the seminar that knowledge is only useful when we put it to work. This woman did just that and she landed a new job with a huge increase in pay.

In my last blog, I wrote about her use of the concept I coached her on, which was “doing a new thing.”  Today, I want to share the second concept I shared with the group, which was overcoming fear by developing faith.

Here’s the teaching:“You will be able to take action, when your faith in yourself is greater than your fear of the future.”  People get paralyzed by fear, because they are uncertain of the what the future will bring.

  • What if the economy has a downturn?
  • What if my health fails?
  • What if a major competitor to my business moves into town?
  • What if, what if, what if?

These kinds of open-ended fears can cause us to fail to make the bold moves that will drive our careers and lives forward.

The fact is that the future will always be unknown, but there is one thing you can know for sure and can count on to make your dreams come true.  You can count on yourself.  You know you!  You have come this far in life by using your mind, skills, and passions to reach goals that once seemed impossible to you.  You can count on you.  Remind yourself of your strengths.

When I coach people, I encourage to them to create the list of 25.   Everyone should have one in their desk drawer, on their phone, or somewhere else close by.  This is a list of 25 things you are proud of that you have accomplished in your life. It can be as small as learning to ride a bicycle, or as large as starting a business.  The key is to write them down and don’t stop till you get to 25.  Then, when your fears rise or you’re having a negative day, pull out your list and read them aloud.  Remind yourself of just how competent you are and then get back to work.

When your faith in yourself is bigger than you fear of the future, you can and will accomplish your goals.

So take action on your dream today.   Make 2019 the best year of your life by replacing fear of the future with faith in yourself.

 

 

The Most Important List To Have In Your Desk

Review Your Past Successes

If it is true that we become what we think about, then we should be thinking about success.  If we are going to live joyful and exciting lives, we have to learn to control our most valuable asset, our mind.  Life is full of experiences and they are all meaningless until we put an interpretation on them.  Sadly, we tend to be drawn to the negative in our thinking and we naturally focus on events that are demotivating and disempowering.  Sometimes we even put a negative tag on what was really a neutral event.  It takes energy to tackle the big goals of life and that energy flows from our attitude.  We must keep our attitude positive and upbeat, even if we are having a bad day. Mentally tough people keep feeding their minds positive claims about themselves.  They see themselves as successful people, who are good to others.  They keep their attention on the positive goals they are pursuing and refuse to be controlled by the random circumstances of life.

An easy way to do this is to mentally review victories from your past. I counsel people to create a list of 25 things they are proud of having done.  It can be as small an event as getting a perfect score on a 4th grade spelling test or as large as successfully starting your own business.  The important thing is to make the list and put it where that you can get to it easily.  When you are having a bad day, pull it out and review it.  You will immediately feel more confident and find new energy to tackle whatever problem you are facing.

This works for five reasons:

  • It takes control of your mind instead of letting it wander aimlessly
  • It focuses the mind on positive events and immediately improves our attitude
  • It reminds you that you are more than the events that happens in your life
  • It balances your mistakes with your positive choices in the past
  • It reminds you that you can continue to add to your list of successes

Mentally tough people don’t allow their minds to run unsupervised.  They control their thoughts.  They do this by feeding the mind positive spiritual truths, forgiving themselves when they fail, and regularly reviewing their successes.

Make your list today.  Refuse to stop writing till you have 25 things on paper.  Put that list where you can see it regularly and use it to remind you of what a wonderful person you are.

You can be mentally tough.  Begin today to change your life for the better.

Just for fun, put one of the things you are most proud of in the comment session and I’ll send you one of mine.

 

To Those Who Want To Grow in 2018

Some of My Favorite Resources for Growth from 2017

Like me, a lot of you love learning and expanding your skillset.  Here are some of my favorite things that helped me grow in 2017.   I hope you find something helpful, and please send me some of your favorites too.

Best books I read:

Spiritual:

The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming  Henri Nowen

https://www.amazon.com/Return-Prodigal-Henri-J-M-Nouwen/dp/0385418671/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1514314966&sr=8-4&keywords=the+prodigal+son+by+henri+nouwen

Personal growth books:

Designing your life    How to build a well lived joyful life   Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1514314699&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=Designiing

Happy Money- The Science of Smarter Spending Elizabeth Done

https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Listening-Second-Relationships/dp/B01M1C4Y1M/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514313492&sr=1-1&keywords=the+lost+art+of+listening+by+michael+p+nichols

Blackout- Remembering the things I drank to forget   Sarah Hupola https://www.amazon.com/Blackout-Remembering-Things-Drank-Forget/dp/B00XO0NZNC/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514313105&sr=1-1&keywords=blackout+remembering+the+things+i+drank+to+forget

The Lost Art of Listening  Michael Nichols PhD

https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Listening-Second-Relationships/dp/B01M1C4Y1M/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514313492&sr=1-1&keywords=the+lost+art+of+listening+by+michael+p+nichols

Abundance: The Future is Better Than You Think

https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Future-Better-Than-Think/dp/B00KEVW8DM/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514313878&sr=1-4&keywords=abundance+the+future+is+better+than+you+think

History

Alexander Hamilton  Ron Chernov

https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Art-Listening-Second-Relationships/dp/B01M1C4Y1M/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514313492&sr=1-1&keywords=the+lost+art+of+listening+by+michael+p+nichols

Biography:

The Glass Castle Jeanette Walls

https://www.amazon.com/Glass-Castle-Memoir-Jeannette-Walls/dp/1439156964/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514314228&sr=1-2&keywords=the+glass+castle+by+jeannette+walls&refinements=p_n_feature_browse-bin%3A2656020011

Best business books:

Platform: Get noticed in a Busy World  Michael Hyatt

https://www.amazon.com/Platform-Get-Noticed-Noisy-World/dp/159555503X/ref=sr_1_1_twi_har_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1514314030&sr=1-1&keywords=platform+michael+hyatt

Favorite podcasts:

  • The Art of Charm Jordan Harbinger – Not about charm, about fascinating topics and leadership
  • Freakonomics Radio – insights from bright minds that take fresh looks at economic principles
  • The Gospel in Life – Pastor Tim Keller- great sermons from one of the best Christian preachers today

Favorite technology:

  • Began using a Macbook Air with plug in desktop desktop display, this has changed my life!
  • Mobile check deposit- goodbye waiting in line at the bank
  • Increased use of video on our church website and church Facebook
  • Finally getting the Twitter thing down
  • Calm- a wonderful meditation app to help me with focus

Favorite Blogs:

For those of you are not into spirituality you might want to stop here, but faith is the key to my life, so a few wins from that area are in order:

  • Spending weeks studying the concept of Christian grace- new freedom flowed into my life
  • Learning to write out my prayers when the mind is locked down
  • Walking with a dear friend through her courageous battle with cancer
  • Using the power of spiritual consensus to find the next step in our church’s growth

I hope you find these useful and I look forward to seeing your suggestions.  Be sure to watch for my next blog which will be the fifth in the series listing the 5 Attributes of Mental Toughness.

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Make 2018 a great year.