The Most Important List To Have In Your Desk

Review Your Past Successes

If it is true that we become what we think about, then we should be thinking about success.  If we are going to live joyful and exciting lives, we have to learn to control our most valuable asset, our mind.  Life is full of experiences and they are all meaningless until we put an interpretation on them.  Sadly, we tend to be drawn to the negative in our thinking and we naturally focus on events that are demotivating and disempowering.  Sometimes we even put a negative tag on what was really a neutral event.  It takes energy to tackle the big goals of life and that energy flows from our attitude.  We must keep our attitude positive and upbeat, even if we are having a bad day. Mentally tough people keep feeding their minds positive claims about themselves.  They see themselves as successful people, who are good to others.  They keep their attention on the positive goals they are pursuing and refuse to be controlled by the random circumstances of life.

An easy way to do this is to mentally review victories from your past. I counsel people to create a list of 25 things they are proud of having done.  It can be as small an event as getting a perfect score on a 4th grade spelling test or as large as successfully starting your own business.  The important thing is to make the list and put it where that you can get to it easily.  When you are having a bad day, pull it out and review it.  You will immediately feel more confident and find new energy to tackle whatever problem you are facing.

This works for five reasons:

  • It takes control of your mind instead of letting it wander aimlessly
  • It focuses the mind on positive events and immediately improves our attitude
  • It reminds you that you are more than the events that happens in your life
  • It balances your mistakes with your positive choices in the past
  • It reminds you that you can continue to add to your list of successes

Mentally tough people don’t allow their minds to run unsupervised.  They control their thoughts.  They do this by feeding the mind positive spiritual truths, forgiving themselves when they fail, and regularly reviewing their successes.

Make your list today.  Refuse to stop writing till you have 25 things on paper.  Put that list where you can see it regularly and use it to remind you of what a wonderful person you are.

You can be mentally tough.  Begin today to change your life for the better.

Just for fun, put one of the things you are most proud of in the comment session and I’ll send you one of mine.

 

You Don’t Have To Be Serious All The Time to Be Successful

Whether you are a spiritual person or not you need faith.  Faith in yourself, faith in your opportunities, and faith in people.  Since it takes faith to keep chasing your goals you should learn everything you can about faith.

Reinhold Niebuhr  wrote, “Humor is, in fact, a prelude to faith; and laughter is the beginning of prayer.”   Why does humor often comes before faith?

  • Because we rarely laugh without feeling some kind of confidence about life
  • Because finding the silliness in situations demands believing that most things work out
  • Because when we laugh, we accept that we are not really in control in life

I’ve known a lot of people of faith.  Those with the deepest beliefs often had an easy sense of humor.  It’s those who can laugh who really believe the most.  Some of the craziness around religion would disappear if those who claim deep beliefs would learn to laugh a little.

What problem is robbing you of peace?  Can you find a way to laugh at it?

I remember an occasion when I worrying my way to an ulcer.  The problem was financial and I felt like I should know the answer.  I was released from my depression when a friend said he had two truths for me.  “One, there is a God,  and two, you’re not him.”  Then he stood there grinning at me till I started to smile and then we laughed together.

When was your last good laugh?  Can you laugh at yourself or some problem that troubles you?  Can you take yourself a little less seriously?  You might be on your way to faith.

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The Failure Is The Success

 

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I failed. For the first time in a long time, a plan made was a flop.   A project that I orchestrated, managed, promoted, and even prayed about, crashed and burned.   It was disconcerting to say the least. To be honest, I’ve been on a pretty good run. I know this won’t sound modest or humble, but I have been succeeded on pretty much everything I’ve been working on.   So you can imagine my chagrin when I failed. I spent a couple of days licking my wounds and enjoying an elaborately staged “pity party,” and then I got back to work. As I analyzed my crash, I was pleased to discover, (with the help of my wise coach) that my failure was actually the success.

Here’s why:

  • I regained a large amount of time that I’d been investing in the project
  • I helped the my clients to recognize why something wouldn’t work
  • I learned a lesson about securing resources before I take on a project
  • I took one more step in clarifying the key areas where I can make an impact
  • I gained this opportunity to model the skill of “failing forward”

The cliché is, “if you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough.”   I am proud to say that thanks to my recent past, I’m trying hard enough.   It is good to know that even our disappointments contain value if we look at them carefully enough. Thanks to the lessons learned, my failure was the success!

Goals- Taking Aim

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Years ago, as a young man, I loved to hunt quail. There is nothing more exhilarating than to be walking through the brush and have a covey of birds, take off almost right under your feet. Sometimes, there will be six or more birds come up with a sound that really gets your adrenalin going. You raise your gun to shoot and the sky seems filled with birds and you feel like you can’t possibly miss. This is where I learned a valuable lesson about life from hunting quail.   If you just shoot into the group, you probably won’t bring down a single bird. I know I made this mistake several times. What you have to do is carefully target just one bird before you shoot. Your chances of success go up by a huge margin and you might have time to focus on one more before they are out of range. But, the point is… you have to choose a particular target.

This is the success secret behind setting goals. Life is full of opportunity and as you enter this New Year your “sky” may be filled with “birds” of every kind.   If you don’t take the time to target what you really want, you will have only mediocre success. You must choose what you want and aim carefully to attain it.

Every year, I set about sixty goals in five different areas of my life. I set goals for finances, relationships, my job, my family, and my spiritual life.   I write these goals down and I review them at least once a week. Some of the goals I review daily. Lately, I have been recording key goals and listening to them every day.   I write down the progress I make on my goals during the year and I check off the goals I’ve completed. I believe my productivity is 1000% greater in all areas of my life than if I hadn’t learned the power of setting goals.

  • Goals provide directions to your efforts.
  • Goals allow you to eliminate time wasters
  • Goals provide you criteria for determining what is important
  • Goals activate the power of the subconscious mind
  • Goals demand accountability
  • Goals increase your productivity exponentially

It’s a new year. It’s full of opportunity. It’s time to take careful aim and set the goals that will transform your life.