When I was in high school there was a beautiful girl I had a crush on. I never tried to date her, because I felt she was out of my league. Every day, I sat by her in class and we became good friends, but I secretly wanted more. I never told her. I watched someone else date her and eventually marry her. Many years later, I learned that she was secretly hoping I would ask her out on a date. I was devasted. I could have asked her out, but I never did. I missed the opportunity to see what might have become of our relationship. Luckily for me, I asked out the next beautiful girl I got interested in and she’s now my wife.
Are you limiting your life because you feel inadequate? Have you accepted a lessor role in life and business because you decided in advance that you are not up to the challenge of a new opportunity? Did you fail to submit your name for consideration when that higher-level position opened up at work? Do you “chicken out” of asking that attractive person on a date? Did you fail to sign up for the courses you really want to take in college, because you didn’t think you were smart enough? These are all habits found in the lives of unsuccessful and unfulfilled people. They don’t do the things mentioned, because they fear they won’t succeed, and even worse, they fear they don’t have what it takes to succeed. The tragedy is that such feelings are lies. You don’t know what you can do until you try. There are powers and skills within you that you haven’t even discovered yet.
Reasons why we feel inadequate:
- We doubt our training.
- We doubt our skills.
- We doubt our experience.
- We doubt our worthiness.
- We doubt our vision.
- We doubt our connections.
- We doubt ourselves.
It’s time to change all that “stinking thinking” right here and now. Decide there is more in you than you have manifested up to now. Decide to go for whatever and whoever you want in life. Start assuming that who you are is enough. Let the people you want to impress make their own decisions about you. Let potential new employers or new girlfriends make up their own minds about you, instead of rejecting yourself before they get the chance. Stop limiting yourself.
In my next blog, I’ll tackle some of the myths of inadequacy, but for now, stop your doubting and start going after who and what you want.