DON’T QUIT ON THE NEW YOU

 

 

 

It’s always a challenge not to quit on the new you.  It’s so easy to start, and so hard to finish.  Ideas come into our heads and we dream new dreams.  We get excited and immediately begin transforming our lives to meet our new lifestyle goals.  Maybe we join a gym, sign up for classes at a college, or start a business from our home.  We are pumped, we are fired up, and we charge into the new work with energy and passion.  We have seen the person we can become and it is almost intoxicating.  And then, we run into a problem.  There is always a problem.  We take a financial loss.  Someone criticizes us.  We fail the first exam in school.  We become discouraged.  We thought we had turned a new corner. We thought we had finally found the path for our life that would work for us.  But once again we run again into problems and we are tempted to quit on our dream.  How do you keep going when you have quit so many times in the past?  Don’t quit, there’s someone out there waiting for you to become the new you.  They need you.

Four powerful strategies can help you embrace the new you:

  • Embrace the game changing attitude of refusing to quit on the new you.

Determine that no matter what you’re facing you’re going to stay in your new mindset.  Resolve that you are not going back to the person you used to be.

  • See your world through the eyes of faith.

You will see that the challenging visions God birthed in your heart while you were praying, or while you were traveling on a mission trip were not a passing dream.  Instead, they are a natural response to the reality of who you now are.  As you have become a new person God has put new dreams in your heart. Don’t go back.  Don’t give up.

  • Commit to continue thinking, dreaming, and planning for success.

Don’t let anyone steer you away from your goals and dreams. God has started you on a path, and He has the power to enable you to complete it.

  • Decide that you are never going back.

I have had detours in my life.  I’ve had times when criticism or weariness led me to take some weaker paths.  However, I could never stay in those defeated states for long.  I picked myself up and dusted myself off and I got back to my dreams as quickly as I could. You have to look at the world through what God is doing in your life right now and you have to determine that you will never go back and live the old life.

Adopt this mantra and repeat it over and over till you get moving again.

I am not the same. I don’t see things the same. I am not seen the same way. 

If you try to live where you once were, you will be miserable.  To live a powerful life, you must move forward. No turning back.  Don’t quit on the new you.

(This is an excerpt from my soon to published new book,  Game Changers, the people, places, and ideas, that change your life)

 

Rats

Combatting the Power of a Negative Comment

I recently watched Morgan Spurlock’s disturbing new documentary, “Rats.” The most unsettling part of the film was not the videos of hundreds of rats scurrying around or even the view of a man drinking out a pan of milk that rats had been drinking from and crawling around in, but the worst part was Spurlock’s evidence of the almost indestructible nature of the species.   He made a strong case for how rats as a species might still be flourishing when man has long vanished from the earth. The resiliency of the furry and almost universally disgusting creatures reminded me of the potency of negative comments in our lives.

Most us have had the weird experience of having one negative comment outweigh dozens of positive ones in our lives. It could be a comment about a new article of clothing you purchased, some creative piece of work you put out in the world, or some new direction where you led your organization.   You have dozens of affirming statements about your work and then you receive a single negative e-mail or phone call. In an amazing quirk of human nature, most people will begin to focus on the single negative comment and almost ignore the larger number of positive statements.

The behavior makes no sense:

  • Why don’t we embrace the sheer weight of numbers and focus on the positive?
  • Why would we let one statement carry more weight than dozens of others?
  • Why do we care so much about complaints that often come from strangers?
  • How in the world did rats and negative comments become so resilient?

I’m not saying people who disagree with our art or work are rats. I am lamenting the fact that negative comments have an amazing ability to survive the counterattacks of our rational minds and our most balanced analysis.

I have a few guesses as to why and one observation for moving forward.

Guesses:

  • We are wired to be sensitive to the negative, hence the famous news media policy, “if it bleeds it leads.”
  • We are usually so in love with our ideas, “after all we birthed them,” that we naively assume everyone else will love them too, hence the “every baby is beautiful” fallacy.
  • We are spoiled to people’s polite silence about our ideas and taste. Hence the shock when someone tells us our amazingly cute new shoes are ugly.
  • We are not wired to consider the negative. Differing opinions are a natural part of the environment and hence they should not surprise us like a rat bounding out of an alley.

Observation:

If you want to live a bold and creative life you will be noticed and draw comments. Not all of them are going to be positive. Treat them like the rats of the comment world. Don’t be shocked by them. Don’t think that they are out of the ordinary, because they are not. They just usually remain hidden. Work to put their limited appearance in perspective against the overriding positive support you receive. Most of all, keep working and creating.

Mr. Spurlock, I disagree, rats will never rule the world.